I hate people who make up their minds about something and then reneging on their decision two to three nanoseconds after they’ve made it. I can say for myself that I’m not the type to rush on any important decisions in life, and yes I have heard complaints that I’m too wishy-washy (and I take too much time) when it comes to making decisions. The good thing about that is though, once I’ve made a decision, I will stick by that decision as long as the parameters surrounding the decision remain the same. This makes my decision trustworthy to the ears of people who knows of my decisions, because they’ll know that when I have reached a decision, I would have thought about it back to front already and so won’t change my mind in the future (all things given equal of course).
Girls are (yes I’m using a gross stereotype… bite me…) especially prone to this syndrome. It is no wonder why there are so many urban myths out there that says “no means yes” and “yes means no” when it comes to girls answering questions. Of course this is an exaggeration which does not hold true if you take it literally. However, you have to think why and how these myths are born. There must be a slight element of truth behind those statements.
I’ll offer my version of what a “yes” is. A “yes” means “yes, but this only applies for the next x days while in my current emotional state, and only while no one else has offered me another side of things to look at.”
The problem with that is, when a person of this category tells you that he/she has reached a decision about something, you don’t trust it. There was no information transferred to me through the “yes” or “no”, when in fact they’ll just change their mind in two days. I don’t care for any type of answer that belongs to the “yes, but as long as….” category. A yes is a yes, a no is a no.
What pisses me off even more is that there are actually people in this world who actually mean what they say, and there’s no way you can tell who they are, unless you know them enough and have seen them make decisions that they don’t back out of. There’s always this lingering suspicion, and it feels terrible when I have to stick someone into the “talking crap out of their ass” category, because I’ll have to scrutenize everything they say, instead of having an honest dialogue.
I’m sure everyone who reads this will agree with me that the world will be a better place when people mean what they say.